The Best Tantrum Elimination Trick... Ever!

How to Stop a Temper Tantrum...Instantly

Want to know how to stop a temper tantrum in its tracks?

Read on...

I am a parent who has successfully navigated the treacherous waters of parenting two toddlers.

I have a proven process to share that will work wonders for:

  • Stopping a temper tantrum without yelling or scolding
  • Getting your child to stop doing something undesirable
  • Negotiate with them so you get what you want, and they think they're winning!

I have used this ONE trick hundreds of times and it has ALWAYS worked.

Here it goes...

When our first child was about two years old, my wife and I went to a presentation put on by a child psychologist on one of our date nights.

Yes, you read that right. But in my defense, there was wine!

And perhaps because of the wine, I don't remember the actual point of her presentation, but I took one BIG IDEA away from her talk, and it really worked...

Like magic!

What I'm about to share with you may not be the exact clinical definition of this parenting hack. I am sure we modified it a bit over the years. We experimented and refined it to get it just perfect.

We have used this this trick hundreds of times now on our two kids...

AND always with a positive outcome.

First, let me start by saying that I'm the kind of parent that is always looking to teach my kids something. I am definitely NOT the type of parent that relies on spanking and timeouts (two extremes in parenting philosophies).

My wife and I are always striving to make sure our kids are smart, well-adjusted and independent. Fortunately, we are three for three in these categories with both our son and daughter.

Here is the BEST parenting hack in existence, as far as I know:

This trick is designed to diffuse a meltdown quickly and have the child come away with some skills to hopefully help them avoid this and other meltdowns in the future - no torture required!

How to stop a temper tantrum in three easy steps:.

  1. Acknowledge:
  2. Start off with letting them know that you understand what is wrong and why they are feeling this way.

    For example, "I understand that you are feeling sad and hungry right now because you can't have a cookie."

    Think about it - the main reason they are crying is so you will know they are sad. Tell them you know their feelings and why.

  3. Explain:
  4. Immediately follow up with an explanation about why they can't do the thing that is making them feel unhappy.

    For example, "It's not OK to have cookies right before dinner because it will take away your appetite for healthy food."

    The explanation also helps prevent this same meltdown next time, since they now know the reason they aren't allowed to do something.

  5. Options:
  6. Then you provide three alternative options that are acceptable.

    For example, "You can have half of a banana, a cup of almond milk, or you can wait 30 minutes until we all eat dinner together."

    Note that I provided three alternatives. Two are desirable, and one is less desirable. The one that is least desirable will look like a terrible option to the upset child. In this case, it is waiting 30 minutes for dinner.

The third alternative is the most important because it makes the other two options sound better by comparison.

Don't be alarmed if the bad behavior doesn't stop the first time you go through this exercise.

If your child is still acting out after one attempt, start over with step number one and go through the magical three steps again. You may even find a third time is necessary.

They are learning something positive each time you through the process.

This really works!

It takes a little practice to have all the steps roll off your tongue with ease, but once you get the hang of it, you'll find yourself using this technique without even thinking about it.

There's another benefit to this process, too...

Each time you go through these steps with your child, you're teaching their little brains that there are always other options when they are sad.

When they get older, this executive skill comes in handy.

Have you tried this approach? How did it work? Please leave a comment below with your experience.

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